Goodbye to Shy MP3 CD – MP3 Audio, November 3, 2015

There was something about the word "Shy" right there on the cover that popped out at me in the book store. I cringed, because I've always been called that and felt like it put me at such a disadvantage with the rest of humanity. "How could you get rid of shy," I thought, "Isn't that something that never goes away?" So, I cracked it open and read a few pages. It was probably the first time I'd really heard about social anxiety, and applied it to myself. And it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. There was a reason why I was that way. And there was something I could do about it!This book covers what makes a person "shy" (which seems to be a more delicate way of wording "social anxiety" in this book), the stigma against introverted people and how this country values extroverts, the struggles that we face, and the mental process that happens and how to try and reverse it. Primarily, it teaches a method of coping called "Gradual Exposure Therapy." The theory is to basically confront your fears with baby steps, and the positive outcomes will boost your confidence and help combat that little voice in your head that tells you that you're annoying and everyone hates you.From personal experience, I was very much a hermit at the time I bought this book. I never left my house, I never dealt with phone calls, I flaked out on plans with friends, I bombed every single job interview. Social anxiety is a very crippling thing. Now I'm not going to say anything like "this book cured my social anxiety!" but what it did was give me some tools to help cope with it. I took the advice given, and made a detailed "G.E.T. Plan" which essentially was a list of all the things that made me want to throw up and disappear. And my big end goal/reward was to go to a big public convention in 6 months with a friend, which involved a meet-and-greet with one of my favorite actors.During those 6 months, I worked on pushing myself to do things that made me scared, made me uncomfortable. It was tough. A lot of times I chickened out. But I can say that in the end it did help to build me into a more confident person by the time I went to the con. It was great!! I made friends with strangers, I didn't shake and crumble inside and for once, I was actually able to enjoy myself. I was very proud of how far along I had come trying to overcome "shyness."TLDR; I highly recommend this book to anyone who feels that they are "shy" and wants to proactively do something about it.

This boo is good. I need it to work with shy kids at my office. It has been very helpful.

No gimmick, PLEASE believe me when I say I have become a SURE reading and doing what Leil tells me to in the book. DO IT! I was never painfully shy, I was shy though. I was also an Avoidant because of that. This book cured it in 2 months. Everyday pick a random page and DO what the page says. Do the shy busters!! Confidence is feeling the fear BUT DOING IT ANYWAY! DO IT please do everything in the book if you wanna become a sure. YOU WILL! its all about getting used to acting like a sure. Once you get used to acting like a sure, IT DOES BECOME YOUR SECOND NATURE!! take my word!!! AND CHANGE for good and for the better. Im feeling RENEWED... I just got invited to a fright fest on Halloween and I invited MY co-worker to the same fest, I hope my co-worker and my friend who invited me can get along! I will make sure they do! thanks LEIL!

I am a bit more than half way through the book. It is an excellent read and Leil does a wonderful job of relating to the audience through examples. It is also concise which is helpful. One of the best parts that I like so far is her showing how people that can be shy often have distorted memories of actual events that took place along with the truth about what people are REALLY thinking when they are talking in a conversation. You guess it--Themselves.Thanks Leil!

I'm seriously thinking in trashing this book. No kidding.Every advice given by the author in this book is exageratedly exagerated. From running naked while screaming in your private room to using a mask to feel like nobody knows you. This is ridiculous.To stop being shy one should be advised as to how interact with people, and not to hide from them or making strange things when alone. Being confident has nothing to do with such things.If you trully want to stop being shy I suggest you to read "The Fine Art of Small Talking", by Debra Fine, and also " The Charisma Myth", by Olivia Fox Cabane and "What Every Body is Saying", by Joe Navarro. These three great books should put you in the right track of knowing what and how to talk with people, how to be more charismatic (and by that making people accept you as someone worth to become friend of), and will also help you to understand how you look like to people and to avoid trying to approach the wrong people.These three books are much more reasonable choices than this "Good by to shy".